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Marriage is difficult, at best.  Being saved has nothing to do with the ease of life.  We are still us, we are still faulted, human, sinful creatures.  So, a saying I have often thought of when I hear of marriages in trouble is “Where ever you go, there you are.”

When we have a problem with another person, spouse, friend, child–it tends to be “OUR” problem.  If we (I do mean ME here) have trouble dealing with someone, it’s because our relationship with God isn’t what it should be.  I don’t mean we’ll never have trouble again, Job proves us wrong there, and Paul let us know if we don’t have a thorn in our side we can be lifted up with pride.  I’m faulted enough–and struggle.  I have to pray, “Don’t let me go there, Lord”  as much or more than the average character.

But, it saddens my heart so much to hear of people who call themselves “Christians” choosing to divorce.

A woman I am acquainted with has been married 20 years.  She and her husband have children together, all still at home.  I don’t honestly know the details of the divorce, only that it’s all so civil.  Their children didn’t ever hear them speak ill of one another, nor did their friends:  they can both manage on their own, and it will be over in about a month–just paperwork.

I’m thinking–if it’s all so civil, why not stay together?  Why not work it out?  For the children, if nothing else.  Can there be anything too great for our God?

It puzzles me.  It saddens me.  I’m praying for this family.  “Life is too short” is a phrase you hear a lot.  Life is too short to spend time doing this. . . life is too short to do that. . . life is too short to stay in a marriage you’re not happy in. . . where ever you go, there you are.

Life is not short.  It is eternal.  Time on earth is short.  I have to remember:

“See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.  Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.”  Ephesians 5:14 – 16

I know that I am not immune to this sin.  I know I have to be vigilant, diligent to walk in the Spirit so that I do not fall, when I am tempted, into this same mindset.  I have to trust in God’s grace to get me through each and every day.

These are my observations.  This is my heart right now.  It’s hurting for this family.


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